Part of your newness in this year may be the people, places, and painful toxic relationships you left behind.
Now that today begins the double digits of a new month/year/perspective, you may feel the pangs.
I wince when the pangs signal their sinister assault. It usually begins with a trigger—-a song-a memory-a photo-even a scent or a smell of the previous. Sometimes I am surprised because my ego told me that “we”—my ego and I—had this grieving thing all worked out.
This Time. And sometimes I am left with panic and wanting to escape.
Perhaps this sentiment will help you as it helped me:
Severing relationships are often difficult especially if one person is more emotionally invested than the other. However, in ALMOST all cases those who hurt the most will probably end-up happier because in hindsight when the healing begins and they learn the lessons of being taken for granted, they discover their true worth and hopefully, they will no longer settle for crumbs.
So if you are currently in this situation where you are hurting because someone broke your heart, please believe me when I tell you… your heart is really unbreakable. You might think it is because your thoughts are preoccupied with hurt at the moment, but once the dust clouds of anger and pain dissipate, your heart will still be there to tell you, “Hey kiddo, we can only hurt as much as we allow ourselves too and we can be happy the same way.” ~ Dodinsky
Please remember that grieving is not just for loved ones preceeding us to heaven. It is also for people who leave without departing. And for ideas and expectations and dreams that belong to other paths.
Because of Grace, God is here.
…the LORD is close to broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit… psalm 34:18
And Because of Grace, we can remedy the pain by remembering Philippians 4:8 (also my focus verse for this new year) and take captive every thought so that it conforms to what is true, noble, etc…and in that, we come out on the other side of the things that are insensitive and toxic.
Because of Grace, God knows the answer for you and me. And God is always safe to trust…so we can ask…