Midweek Question of the Week ~ December 16

This week’s question reflects the season: Can you make peace with yourself?


Make peace with yourself, dear friend. Always choose the words that bring more peace. Always choose the action that brings more peace. Always choose the relationships that bring more peace. The opposite of war is peace. We may not be able to bring peace to all of the world, but we can start by refusing to be at war with ourselves. ~Brave Girls Club


I think this might be the key to a “Holly Jolly Christmas” with all the trimmings.

I am increasing my prayers and mindfulness for peace with myself free of regrets, what-ifs, and if-onlys.




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Mid-week Question of the Week ~ August 12

A Reflective Question of Hindsight this week:

What Happened Instead?


What blessings came your way instead of the things you thought were blessings that did not?

What people, places, situations, and things came instead of what you thought was necessary?

When the answer to your prayers was “No” or “Not Now,” what came instead?

What Happened Instead?


It is amazing, when we look back on what we thought we knew for absolutely sure that we wanted — even things we grieved over because they never happened. It is amazing how blessed we are that those things never happened or because we never ‘got’ the things we thought for sure that we wanted. ~Brave Girls Club



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This Enough~Seek the Enough

My focus word for right now is “Enough.”

Focus Word Enough

Not in the “I’ve had enough!” sense of the word, which reflects frustration and lack of peace.

And not, in the “Enough is Enough” punitive determinism of push-back.

No, my lens for “Enough” is the bastante in Spanish and the abbastanza in Italian:

Peacefully Sufficient


 Here’s the truest of truths….
You are absolutely enough today….right now. You don’t need to do more, be more, or have more to be ok.
You are beautiful and kind and funny and smart, and the world is so much brighter because you shine your light on it….
Don’t ever ever ever let anything blow your light out….you are just way too important. Thank you for being you.
You are beloved. You always have been, and you always will be. ~Brave Girls Club

2 Cor 12:9


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Mid-week Question of the Week~What if it’s Not?

Ask yourself “WHAT IF?” as often as you can. And sometimes, when you are making plans and making goals and dreaming dreams and all of it seems too big and unattainable, turn things around…

ask yourself …

what if it's not

“what if… it’s not?”

If you’re going over something scary in your mind, over and over and over, ask yourself “what if that really did happen?” and then let the whole situation play out — worse case scenario. See yourself dealing with every little part of it and see that even if the thing you feared most really did happen, you would make it, so you can let go of fear.

Asking “WHAT IF?” releases all limitations, and makes anything possible. When you find yourself stuck, whether because you think your goals are too big, or because your strength is too small, push past those limitations and really be honest with yourself. You will learn so much from this tiny little question.
“what if… it’s not?” from Brave Girls Club

Because of Grace…what if it’s not?


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This Weekend~Come Home to Yourself

still waters at almost night

Today would be a great day to decide that no matter how long the road is, you are going to come home to yourself and reflect the grace-filled life that is meant for you.
~Adapted from the Brave Girls’ Club


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Mid-Week Question of the Week~January 10

what's happened instead?

Instead, be filled with the Spirit, ~Ephesians 5:17-19

Choose my instruction instead of silver,
    knowledge rather than choice gold, ~Proverbs 8:10

To give to those who mourn in Zion
Joy and gladness instead of grief,
A song of praise instead of sorrow. ~Isaiah 61:3

Depending on the version of Bible you read, there are 43-103 instances of the word “instead” recorded.

It is interesting to me that as the translations are more current, there are more instances of the word “instead.”

Think about where you are now, and what
you have learned, and who you have become, and where you are headed due largely
in part to those things NOT happening that you were sure that wanted to

Even if those thoughts are painful, and you are still wishing, be
patient. You are in the middle point of here to there. If things haven’t worked
out they aren’t done working out yet. You will soon see, beautiful friend, Trust this.
~Brave Girls Club

Because of Grace, sometimes God leads us to an “instead moment.”
Or, He waits with us, holding us in His grace, until we find strength.

I wonder, Are our “insteads” really God’s “suddenlies”?

Perhaps that is a question best marinated until another day…


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This Weekend~Don’t Dismiss You

A new artist for me …good lyrics…especially the part about not dismissing ourselves

“Don’t ever try to dismiss yourself because you don’t have to…” Yuna


“Don’t” is a word I try to avoid in conversation and writing. But writing around the word (Dismiss Not You/Avoid Dismissing You) dilutes the imperative. Yuna knew the best word. So it stands.

Perhaps, there is time for you to play the video again and read this sentiment from Brave Girls Club:

Think about when you were a little [person]. All of those hopes, dreams, and ambitions that were unique and wonderful and unabashed. What held you back as you grew older, from wanting or working for those tender dreams that grew through your soul from your first memories of having your own unique dreams?
Don’t be afraid to be the person that you thought you might grow up to be, that person that you dreamed of being — that amazing woman that you looked into the future to see when you were a little girl. Uncover those dreams again and believe in them. Shoot for what is deepest in your heart, and be the woman that you always wanted to be.

You are so loved. ~Brave Girls’ Club


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You do not see things as they are; you see them as you are. ~Michael Michalko

We assign meaning to experiences by the way we choose to interpret them. And this is tricky because our perceptions are often not accurate.

I assigned meaning, calling something great, good, scary or awful, often by where I am attached. But God….But God always has a plan for His servants that we may not know about. I need to ask God to give me His perception of the situation, not my own.

Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves
me. All day long I put my hope in you.
~ Psalm 25:5

Michalko offeres and example from IBM and Thomas Edison. IBM’s research and development department observed that no one in the world used a personal computer. They interpreted this to mean there was no market and shared this viewpoint with upper management. At the same time, college dropouts, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs, looked at the same absence of personal computers and saw a massive opportunity. IBM never gained a significant market share in personal computers.

Once Thomas Edison was approached by his assistant while he worked on perfecting the filament portion for the light bulb. Edison’s assistant asked why he didn’t give up on the arduous process. “After all,” the assistant said, “you have failed 5000 times.” Edison looked at him and questioned what the assistant meant by failure. Approaching the filament dilemma, Edison said, “I have discovered 5000 things that don’t work.”

For me, the equation becomes: R=IE2–> Reality equals interpretation from past experiences squared.

Often, I construct our own reality by how I choose to interpret my experiences. If there have been a string of bad, untrustworthy experiences, my lens will reflect that. If there have been a string of trusting, kind experiences, my lens will reflect that.

Michalko advises, “Approach a problem on its own terms. Do not trust your first perspective of a problem as it will be too biased toward your usual way of thinking. Always look at your problem from multiple perspectives.” Gently click here to read more of Michalko’s ideas.

Lately, I ‘ve been a tarbaby stuck in rejection’s grip, the result of too many untrustworthy people who use(d) blame as a weapon.
Until I am grouded in knowing, really knowing God’s love and acceptance of me, I tend to look at challenges as problems with a hidden rejection lens. I see rejection where it may not be. This is where gratitude and a cadre of friends who love God and want His best for me keeps me surrounded by the truth until I am strong enough to see it from Him first. I continue to ask God to show me clearly His perception of events in my life so I don’t lean on my understanding.

It’s so important to
surround yourself with the right kinds of people when you

are striving to live a meaningful life. We can not always choose whom we walk
with on our paths in life, but whenever we can, it makes everything easier, more
joyful, and so much more productive when we choose to spend our days with people
who bring out the best in us, see the best in us, and believe the best about us.

Seek out the kinds of people who make you want to become a better person,
the kinds of people who are focusing on positive and good things in life.
From the Brave Girls’ Club


To read more about Creativity and Creative attributes, gently click here

by Jennifer Dukes Lee @ gettingdownwithJesus.com

Monday Words for the Soul~Words to Describe Creative You!

Gently click here to see the butterfly up close


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Mid-Week Question~Nourish

A brand new month gives the occasion to ask a new question:

How Can You Nourish Your Soul Today?

How Can You Nourish Your Soul Today

You add so much beauty to the world in the world around you.

Please consider the replenishment that you and I need.
We are in the triple-digit days of heat here and I am mindful of how sadly the herbs in the front yard droop just one day in the heat.
I am amazed at how quickly they respond to the nourishment of the water I pour on them.

Our souls respond just as quickly.
Souls are nourished on truths of faith. ~1 Timothy 4:4-6

How can you nourish your soul today?
Perhaps reading this post  or this post will provide ideas.


The answer’s simple:  Live right,  speak the truth,  despise exploitation,  refuse bribes,  reject violence,  avoid evil amusements.  This is how you raise your standard of living!  A safe and stable way to live.  A nourishing, satisfying way to live. ~Isaiah 33:15- the message

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Tell Me Once Again

Tell Me Once Again, who i am to You…

And gently click here to read this Pep Talk from the Brave Girls’ Club
(ok to click if you are a man)

a Grace Scavenger Hunt

Go on a Grace Scavenger Hunt…What can you find? What can you leave?

Last week, I considered moving a blog and a dog.

I found grace in the calls of a friend who stayed with me during all of the panel interviews. Whose reassurances reminded me that listening to my inner voice cautions was the correct path “to heed”

Last week, I saw the Grace of a river that flows North, against the usual flow.
Toured a house for lease because of divorce… Another for lease because of a move for an autistic child.

Amid the unusual currents and broken dreams, I needed to remember:

There is a little secret something so amazing, so miraculous and so wonderful…
The secret is that there is nothing that others can do to really hurt us from the outside when we do not allow our own thoughts to hurt us on the inside. Once we take care of what is going on inside of our minds and our hearts and our souls, anything that tries to come at us from the outside simply can have no influence on our life.
Brave Girls’ Club

Amid the unusual currents and broken dreams, I wanted to leave a note: You are Loved

The graffiti can be grace.
What seems a defacement may be a glimpse of His face. ~Ann Voskamp

I left a note in the motel room I left; another in the Budget rental, and the airplane seat pocket in front of me.
There are pictures to commememorate this on the fancy phone. When I learn how to download I will post.

There are many lessons to download this week.

Chief of them: Because of Grace it is ok to look for more than “a job”

Grace is the “dialect of God is the day just as it comes — the divine language of love written on all the walls.

Grace always shocks.

Grace always stuns.

Grace is always what we need.

It’s what everyone groping around lost in the dark has to know: turn towards Grace and you turn on all the lights. ~Ann Voskamp


Go on a Grace Scavenger Hunt…What can you find? What can you leave?

Monday Words for the Soul~April 30~Content with Yourself

mondayMonday Words for the Soul

From Mother Teresa: “May you be content with Yourself”

from Mother Teresa

picture courtesy of Brave Girls Club, http://www.bravegirlsclub.com

Your comments and thoughts always welcome~!


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Criticism~Continued Healing

As I continue to heal from criticism, reminders that the process is not one-stop-shopping prevail. Helping in the process and helping me to process this wonderful post from Brave Girls Club arrives in my Inbox.

Dear adored girl,

When someone mistreats us, it is so important to not allow ourselves to take it personally, to let it measure our value, to let it soak in as something we ‘deserve’ or to let it derail us when we are on the right track.

Sometimes it comes as such a surprise, such an assault and such a distraction. Whether it is a few cruel words said in a moment of heat, or whether it is years long of aggressive behavior, it is difficult to deal with! Often we let it deflate our confidence, we mull over it for days, and we even sometimes allow the mistreatment to make us feel like we must not be valuable enough to be treated with kindness.

Please do not allow the lies in, sweet friend. Please do not allow the mistreatment to go any further than the person who was delivering it. Let them keep it, for whatever reason, and do not receive it for yourself. Say kind things to yourself when it is over. Allow yourself to heal for a few minutes or a few days, and then make a promise that you will do what it takes to protect yourself from it happening again, always with love, always with truth, always with bold strength.

You are worth protecting. Your heart is worth protecting. Your soul is worth protecting.

You are so very loved, Brave Girls Club

Saturday Digest~February 25

~~~Been thinking a lot about Leaping this week: what to leap away from and what to leap into. And the timing of not leaping away too soon or out of fear and flight.

Then, this email message from Brave Girls Club arrives and I feel my shoulders slide downward to normalcy and my breathing slowly returning to deep contemplative.

So, dear girl, even if it is scary, scarier than you could ever even explain,


~~~My focus verse this winter has been Philippians 4:8. Here is a delightful printing page of this verse to use for notes, journaling, devotionals, reminders…anything! It can be downloaded from this link.

Philippians 4:8 Journal Page

~~~And included with my uncertainty and thoughts of leaping, this post from Jody’s Devotionals offers reassurance. “The enduring promise of God is that He will never leave me. God is the perfect Father. He loves His children. He has been there, watching and waiting, all the time. From the moment I said “Yes” to Jesus, He moved into my life. Through the times of unlimited joy, my LORD has been there with the biggest smile, dancing over me (Zephaniah 3:17). Through the darkest, loneliest of nights when my face is flooded with tears, my Jesus is there to hold me and comfort me (John 14). When I cannot find the words, for whatever reasons, I can go to Psalms and find the outlet for my feelings. God has heard them all before. He’ll hear them again. God will sustain when I am too weak, too tired, too confused. When the path He asks me to walk is long and steep, He will walk beside me every step. He will even pick me up and carry me.” ~Jody Neufeld

With prayers for you to land in love after you leap…

Video of the Week: Steve Martin on banjo

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Saturday Digest~February 18

This week found me in the middle of questions…things to be decided once and for all…

~And there seemed to be questions in blogs too… “In a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?”  The answer is in this post and video….Kindly read more From Paul, The Gratitude Guru

~Why Do I Suffer? I Suffer because…Sometimes the obvious question is the one worth asking. This post by Cheri Huber contained a new, favorite quote for me:

Now I am curious about what it feels like to live in Technicolor instead of monochrome – to be the picture instead of the negative.

~The Upside of Moving: “When God moves us out of our comfort zones, it is a gift. We are being given a gift. These hard places give us the gift of intimately knowing God — in ways that would never be possible in our comfort zones.” Ann Voskamp is this post of thoughtfulness

~This is the best medicine for me to take right now…Remember, sweet friend, that so much of the best wisdom we will ever earn will come from learning things the hard way. Please don’t beat yourself up over things that didn’t go the way you had hoped, over steps that were wrong, over roads that were dark. from Brave Girls Club, Read entire sentiment by gently clicking here

Video of the Week:

Please remember, His Grace is reaching for us…

Listen to the Sound  Building 429

Let the old, clenched stuff go…

where the miracles are

Saturday Digest~December 31

…the last Saturday Digest of 2011…Happiest Beginning to your New Year!

~Great Advice for the New Year: Let EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF BRAIN BAGGAGE GO and starting over with fresh hope, fresh faith, an open mind and endless possibilities. Brave Girls’ Club

~20 Words That Will Change Your Day New Year

~Make a Not-to-Do List for 2012Ask God to clarify the things he wants you to do this year, and then ruthlessly move everything else onto your list of things not-to-do. Then, press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called you (Philippians 3:14).

~7 Citrus-Inspired Recipes for Holiday Detox from my friend Jacqui Hatzell who blogs at The Sacred Yes:  

~Friend Brenton’s soul-nourishing, new music, “I Need You” is available for free download 

~Lots of writing/speaking about “finding your passion.” Here is another perspective on passion and the actual meaning of the word passionate.

Video of the Week:

Music by Teri Geisel

:) See you back here next year, Because of Grace!

A Mid-week Question to Consider~December 21

what if

Last week’s question

Saturday Digest~December 3

~~~Really appreciate the concrete steps at the close of this post at Creative Spiritual Women and especially this thought:

When we spend too much time thinking and not enough time with the Thinker, the clouds obscure the sun and we feel “dark.”

Love. As I fill myself up with love, all those thoughts lose their value. I imagine myself emanating love and the light shines forth brilliantly in the present. This works whether I’m doing dishes, having a tough conversation, driving, eating, anything. When I switch my thoughts to “What can I love? How can I love more? Who can I love? What is loving about this person? How can I appreciate them more?” All negativity, all clouds, all the fog clears. The Light is truly Love- they are one in the same. ~Belle Pirri in How to Clear Your Mind

~~~A post intended to “leave you feeling hugged and safe and warm” Please be your own best friend and read these thoughts from Kristin Noelle

~~~When my focus is on myself and all that I think needs to be done in a day, I stop focusing on what God has placed as gifts right in front of me

~~~Please don’t beat yourself up when you have to say no, or even when you have to walk away. Remember, that what you are ACTUALLY doing is saying YES to what is most important, what can never be replaced and what is meant for you and for your life…and sometimes saying yes to all of those things leaves room for nothing else.
From the Brave Girls Club

InCourage December calendar Printable

Video of the Week: The Greatest Day by Chris Moerman 

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