Tough Times Tuition

The tough times are tuition we pay for what we need to know to succeed.

Today I am typing this while sitting at an airport club. I am waiting for my flight and, for the past hour, two men have been sitting in the cubicle next to me. They have been talking about an interview they had with a woman. They have papers containing their questions to her and her answers. From my glances, it seems that the applicant’s responses have been neatly typed and tabulated. They are reviewing their interview and rating the applicant’s answers. I know the applicant is a woman because of their use of the female pronoun.

And… I am pretty sure the woman is not going to get the job. Her answers, one of the men says, “reflect a relatively shallow pool.” There are too many “1’s” and not enough “4s” assigned to the tabulation.  The whole experience is causing my tension to rise. I am going to move to a calmer locale.

But, if she were here, nervously waiting for their decision…I would  want her to know she was brilliantly courageous to go so far in the application process to be the subject of such scrutiny. And I want her to know that “The tough times are tuition we pay for what we need to know to succeed.” And, that there are Blessings contained in every question with a “no” answer. 

I would show her this sentiment posted elsewhere by Jean W.

Your Value

Because “she” could be me. “She” has been me. “She” might be you, or a past memory of you.

And Because of Grace, there are amazing promises that will outlast the temporal interviews and points-of-view that occupy our days.

Success beyond numbers, data, and ratings.

mid-week question~January 15~Boxes


How many miracles have I missed between the thin lines of all those neatly penciled boxes? ~Jennifer Dukes Lee in this post

Geometrically speaking, when everything is ready and boxes intersect, they transform into elegantly,  interconnected designs.

At the time of the banquet he sent his servant to tell those who had been invited, ‘Come, for everything is now ready.’ ~Luke 14:17
Immediately he got up before them, and picked up what he had been lying on, and went home glorifying God. ~Luke 5:25

Mid week question of the week~Unanswered Questions

Can you carry within yourself an unanswered question?

As a young girl, locking up the church building with my dad gave me time to ask him important questions.

“Important questions” such as what was the use of having more than one pair of uncomfortable shiny, patent-leather Mary Jane shoes. Or why Mr. So-and-So was such a know-it-all?

Usually, Dad was circumspect and diplomatic, but my second question must have reminded him of a few grouchy curmudgeons because he said, “Well, darlin’ it sure does seem as if he has no unanswered questions.”

My memory of these conversations was spurred when I read Jennifer Dukes Lee’s post, “When Waiting is Hard.” In this post Lee describes a patient, worshipful believer-in-waiting as one who espouses Elisabeth Elliott belief that waiting on God is a “willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question.

Can you carry within your heart an unanswered question?

an unanswered question


Previous Questions

Mid-week question of the week~May 1~Carry off


Are you carrying it all … all by yourself?  Throw it out. Throw it away. Fling it far and wide…into the arms of Grace.

What a cathartic gift it is to lay our burdens down. God’s strength and forgiveness is critical for us to recognize and accept. It is our saving grace. ~Lisa Delay

Because of Grace we never have to carry our burdens and fears alone…especially since our lifeguard walks on water. And he rolls stones away…

We were never meant to carry our burdens alone, writes Jennifer Dukes Lee.

Cast off and cast away burdens on the LORD, and He shall sustain you. ~Psalm 55:22). 


Other questions

Wholehearted Living: A Story from the Pavement

On some Thursdays, there are Because of Grace Wholehearted Living Stories:

Jennifer Dukes Lee at Monday's Boston Marathon

Jennifer Dukes Lee at Monday’s Boston Marathon

A  stirring perspective from the Boston Marathon by Jennifer Dukes Lee:

I stood shivering and bouncing among 8,000 runners that cool May morning when the gun shot off.

My dad stood at the starting line, pumping his fists in the air. And he would be there again, with my mom and sister, at mile four, and again at mile seven. I remember how proud they were for me, even though I scooted along at the back at the pack.

Bob, a pastor-friend, told me a few days before the race to pay attention while I was running because the half-marathon was more than a race. It was an opportunity to see God. 

And so I saw… Click here to read the rest of Jennifer’s story


More Wholehearted Living Stories

A word from The Sponsor~March 31~Keeping Promises

Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.
In you, O LORD, I take refuge;
let me never be put to shame.
In your justice rescue me.
Into your hands I commend my spirit;
you will redeem me, O LORD, O faithful God.
~ Psalm 31
He personally carried our sins in his body on the cross so that we can be dead to sin and live for what is right. By his wounds you are healed. ~ 1 Peter 2:24
We’ve been fetched. We’ve been invited to go where we are not qualified to go, and we’ve gone inside on credentials that aren’t even our own.  So, this is grace. ~Jennifer Dukes Lee
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. ~John 15:13
Jesus was heckled and pursued by hypocritical men who would not rest until they killed Him, primarily because He challenged their self-satisfying life and traditions. Jesus laid down His life because He had no other greater way to show His great love for me.
~Jody Neufeld
You’re my place of quiet retreat; I wait for your Word to renew me. ~Psalm 119:114
Here I am all these thousands of years later, a child of God with a covenant relationship with my LORD because He kept His promises
~Jody Neufeld
When you are tired and wondering why He came, please remember…
 We are no longer prodigals
Because of Grace

Mid-week Question of the Week~February 20~Care and Feeding

Question of the Day taken from Scoutie Girl

   What feeds you?

And, please remember… You. Matter. You are God’s good idea –what a great thought from Jennifer Dukes Lee. 

You are God’s masterpiece.

What Feeds You?


More Questions to Consider

This Weekend~December 21 Last Minute Gift Suggestions

gift suggestions


And this: Does Santa Believe in Jesus by Jennifer Dukes Lee

Faith During Life’s Sutures

Faith is not believing in a false promise of prosperity, but in the abiding presence of Christ.

In this life, you’ve got to write it down sometimes to remember what you believe — not just in frosting, but on hearts. We believe that God has got it. All of it. This is not just a theological catch-phrase, but an actual way to habitually remember that there is a King in Heaven who holds all things together — even when life isn’t a piece of cake.

And we repeat it to ourselves, on the hot and cloudless days, and when the diagnoses come, and when we’ve gathered in hospice rooms, and over hospital beds, and in ugly days of wild uncertainty. It’s true: What we say to ourselves, and to one another, can  determine whether we will live imprisoned or free. Because dark days will come. In this world we will have trouble, but what did Jesus say? “Take heart, for I have overcome the world.” ~Jennifer Dukes Lee

Perhaps today is the perfect day to take five and read “When Life Isn’t A Piece of Cake, God Has Still Got ItandFaith, Miracles and Modern-Day Fools” both posts by Jennifer Dukes Lee


A Word from The Sponsor~July 22

You, O LORD, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light. ~ Psalm 18:28

even when
we choose wrong
and we would deserve
your anger, let us see
how gentle you are
with us.
Help us to turn toward You
when we mess up.


See Additional Words from The Sponsor by gently clicking here!

This Weekend~Easy Weekend Activity~Remind Yourself

This weekend, remind yourself of the Beloved creation you are from The Beloved who created you.
Rebound from your “soul amnesia” as Ann Voskamp has described it.

We’ve worn a lot of names: Rejected. Loser. Not enough. Insignificant. Dumb.

God’s got a new name for you. And He’s telling you, once again, who you are to Him.
~Jennifer Dukes Lee


Previous Weekend Activities

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